Who Spoke to Me This Way?

Who spoke to me this way? Who treated me this way? Seriously ask yourself this.

“Your perception of me is a reflection of you; my reaction to you is an awareness of me.”

The reflections we see from other people (remember this can sometimes be subconscious) can awaken the trauma inside of us. Some are faint and some are extremely loud.

There is no other way around it. Every emotional reaction, good or bad, is a reflection of us.

So the next time you say something mean, do something disrespectful or hurt someone else’s feelings or your own, ask yourself, “who taught me to be like this?”

Can I choose to forgive them?

Now, what if you’re not sure why you’re acting like this. Think about your childhood and imagine your younger self… how was she treated? How was she loved? How did others talk to her? Do you see any similarities between how your younger self was treated vs. how you treat others?

Now imagine your child or your future child, how would you feel if others treated them how you were treated?

Understand you must be gentle with yourself during this time. Understand that you’re only reacting and responding in ways that you were taught.

To stop the generational cycle, you must forgive in order to break the curse. YOU MUST FORGIVE to move forward.

Forgive others, forgive yourself, and let’s move forward together.

Sending love to you always! Xo.

original prompt by, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT. CGT @lizlistens